Couples Therapy

We all try our best to have the best decision before starting an emotional relationship by inspecting every aspect. But when we begin a relationship, it doesn’t mean the inspections have come to an end. Sometimes our first understandings are not precise or sufficient, and the differences and conflicts show up after a while. Sometimes time changes our desires or life circumstances so that the relationship would feel its effect. Even if none is the case, conflicts are inseparable characteristics of a relationship, even in healthy ones. Couples therapy helps us learn the strategies of resolving the conflicts to manage to continue our valuable relationship. Additionally, occasionally we find ourselves in a not healthy relationship, and our attempts to fix its problems seem to be in vain. In this case, a couples therapist with knowledge over all the aspects of emotional relationships can help us decide whether to keep on or split up.

If you see one or more of the signs below, visiting a couples therapist might improve your relationship:

• You do not enjoy being together.
• You cannot express your contrasting ideas.
• You do not feel peace, intimacy, or being loved.
• You do not reach a consensus over vital life decisions.
• You are cold with each other, or you cannot enjoy your sexual relations.
• You have more conflicts than before and always wind up being in cliché arguments.
• Deep down, you do not love your partner, or you have feelings towards another person.
• You face a turning point like having a baby or immigration, and you cannot cope with the new situation.

• A massive change like immigration, though it can be full of opportunities and delightfulness, pushes an amount of stress over the immigrant. This stress can lower the capacity of one’s tolerance, and as a result, you lose your patience and sympathy. You must have these characteristics to maintain a good relationship, and by losing them, you find yourself in the middle of conflicts.
• If you immigrated with your partner, you both face a new environment, and you both need to cope with the requirement of the new culture. It is possible that one gets influenced more than the other and has more drastic changes in values and lifestyle. In this case, the difference in one person would result in a change in the relationship.
• When an emotional relationship is built after immigration between two people with different backgrounds, the cultural difference becomes significant. Each culture has unique values that might not be as important in other cultures. This issue would be a sparkle of conflicts between people who choose their partners from different nationalities.

With any amount of intimacy or understanding, conflicts can arise in any relationship due to the uniqueness of each person, therefore, their needs and desires. The good news is that you do not need to fear the conflicts or see them as the end of your relationship. It is sufficient to know how to accept the differences and disputes and keep you and your relationship safe. 

In couples therapy sessions at Daroon, you will learn the efficient methods to resolve these disputes. You will learn how to accept the differences, become closer to your partner, regulate your expectations, and state them effectively to compromise your conflicts with the help of your partner being sympathetic and understanding. In addition, if you are in a dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship that is impossible to refine, your therapist can help clarify your view on your current relationship and its future to make a prompt and correct decision about keeping your relationship or splitting up.